Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the ability to express, control and more importantly to understand our emotions which includes intrepreting and responding to the emotions of others.
A lot of people will think that Emotional Intellligence is a new thing; however it was first mentioned back in 1964, reappearing in 1966, then in 1983 and again 1985. The biggest research happened in 1990 when Peter Salovey and John Mayer led research into emotional intelligence and defined it as:
”The subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.”
They identified four different factors to emotional intelligence:
- Perceiving Emotions: The first step in understanding emotions is to perceive them accurately. This includes interpreting non-verbal signs such as body language and facial expressions.
- Reasoning With Emotions: Emotions help prioritise what we pay attention to and react to; we respond emotionally to things that catch our attention, therfore they help to promote cognitive ability.
- Understanding Emotions: Perception plays a huge part in understanding emotions. Emotions can carry a wide variety of meanings and its are job to work out what the actual meanings are. For instance is a person angry at us or something else entirely.
- Managing Emotions: The biggest part of emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions effectively. Regulating and responding appropriately to our own and others emotions is the most important aspect of emotional intelligenc
Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence – Why it can matter more than IQ (1995), explores emotional intelligence and collates research that proves its value in todays world.
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is becoming just as important as IQ.
Emotional Therapeutic counselling can help people to become emotional aware, not only with their own emotions but also with those people surrounding them.